I'm Alex (they/them). I care about you. I love plants (I run bplant.org), questioning things, and discussing deep ideas. I love talking to people, send me a message! I really appreciate selfies.
I am nonbinary (agenderflux), vaguely transfem and gender-non-conforming, and use they/them pronouns.
I’m neurodivergent. I have sensory issues and am generally weird.
I’m married and you can read more about my boundaries about our relationship below.
My blog is off-the-wall and you cannot expect it to remain consistent with frequency or topics. Cute animal photos, stupid memes, serious wall-of-text political commentary are all possible. But I love nature, Tumblr humor, and deep commentary so you’re eventually gonna find all of these.
I am friendly and like to chat. My phone notifications are always off and I mostly use Tumblr at the computer. I am inconsistent at responding. I might engage immediately sometimes, and take days to get back to you other times. Please don’t take it personally, I still care about you!
I appreciate mass likes / reblogs and love engagement on my old posts. Don’t be shy!
I don’t mind being called girl or guy but dislike being called woman or man. I care less about pronouns and language and more about gendered assumptions. I.e. if you are thinking “Because you are (female/male/nonbinary) you must…” keep these thoughts to yourself and maybe consider working through them because they’re probably untruthful. People are diverse.
I like talking about sex, and I like being given compliments about my body, but I do not want to hear about any sexual fantasy involving me, nor do I want you to ask me if I fantasize about you. This both oversteps a boundary of my marriage and I still usually didn’t like hearing this type of thing even back when was single. Also I do not want to roleplay or send explicit pics and please don’t ask.
I am sex positive and anti-censorship, but I am not seeking porn. I may engage with a more explicit or provocative picture or selfie on your blog, but please do not send me any explicit or sexually-provocative pictures by DM. I may have liked the pic in spite of the fact it was explicit, not because of it, and similarly for following you if your blog posts NSFW content. Or I may have wanted to signal my support for your sex positivity. Me liking your post or following you is NOT consent to receive such pics by DM.
I do not support any kind of violence except in direct self-defense, and I may unfollow you or distance myself from you if your blog advocates for such. Yes, this includes for causes I agree with, like “punch a nazi” rhetoric. Want to know why? Read this post.
I do not tolerate negative generalizations directed at any group of people. I don’t care whether the group is privileged or not, it always ends up harming marginalized people. Read this post for my explanation. I’m especially sensitive to how negative overgeneralizations about men can harm trans and neurodivergent people. If you post such negativity and I value our connection, I will challenge it. Otherwise I will unfollow or block you. I don’t want people in my life who voice this sort of negativity.
You do not get to tell me what my experience is or what my intentions are. Nor do you get to tell other people this nor do I want to listen to you making these kind of statements about others. This is especially true if you are speculating about someone having negative intentions. I will react similarly to this point as to the point above.
Do not ask me for money, to buy content, or to reblog your fundraiser post if I do not know you. I like supporting people, but I am not here to buy content, and I am wary of scammers and highly selective about who I support. I only support people I know well. If we are mutuals though, feel free to reach out for financial advice. I love helping people improve their own financial situation if there is any way I can. If you want to support me, visit bplant.org and donate to that project; you will help support education about and protection of North American native plants and the ecosystems that depend on them!
Do not message me a generic “hey” or message me without having engaged with my blog at all, especially if you are an empty or very new blog. You will get blocked and reported as spam. Fill out your blog, make some posts, engage with some posts on my blog. And if you message me, please tell me how you find me and what made you want to message me.
I think that pretty much covers it, but I can update this if more issues arise!
This hack will save your teeth: there are no “right” and “wrong” times to brush your teeth.
It gets in your head that you brush after eating when you wake up and when you go to sleep. Yeah that’s all well and good, but those are times that don’t have a lot of motivation and control…So just…brush your teeth at a different time.
You go to the bathroom in the middle of the day and are like “I should brush my teeth” DO IT!!!! Don’t listen to the other half of that sentence that says “shit but it’s not the right time”
I don’t care if you’re about to eat, or get coffee, or whatever.
If you are there and you want to…do it.
Honestly this hack will solve most of problems. Just stop assigning meaningless “right” and “wrong” to tasks and start saying “I can pretty much do whatever I want whenever I want and society and its expectations don’t really matter to me”.
If there’s no barrier in the first place you don’t have to get over it.
huge ADHD hack. if you can get over the “all or nothing”, moralizing, judging aspect of every action you “should” take, you’ll discover you can get more done than you expect.
I’m a big fan of the 2 PM shower. spend a whole morning feeling lazy and guilty, then just decide to start the day over again, even if it is lunchtime.
you can always begin again. any hour, any moment can be the beginning. you can choose that. the clock doesn’t run you, you run the clock
you can always begin again. any hour, any moment can be the beginning. you can choose that
i asked my dentist about this and he said, it doesn’t matter when you brush your teeth as long as you do it twice a day, spaced out far enough apart, and you avoid brushing your teeth for about 15 minutes after consuming strongly acidic foods.
seriously, that’s the only thing that matters. right when you wake up? fine. before breakfast? fine. half an hour after breakfast? fine. middle of the morning? fine. just do it.
but be mindful of the acidity thing, you don’t want to get acidic material on your teeth and then brush them immediately because this can damage them, as acid softens the enamel. drink something neutral like water and then give it 15 minutes before brushing.
our debt is due to these billionaires getting huge tax breaks and cheating on their taxes. Tax the Rich!
in case some people don’t get it, these people are in a totally different category from the much larger portion of people earning $200-300k a year and living lives you and i would consider opulent
we could recover a large portion of resources from society without touching the wealth of the upper-middle-class, by targeting the ultra-rich.
LMAO the last one! The strongman’s immediately like “No. No, absolutely not. Nope.” and the bodybuilder looks around like “Are you kidding me? I’ll die. You know that, right? I’ll die?”
The Rogue, the Paladin, the Barbarian have a day to themselves and enjoy some friendly competition.
This is such a fun video to watch. Not only do you see 3 versions of masculine fitness and strength but with each movement you can almost see where their weight is distributed and where they place their control. Which makes it fun to think about body builds and fantasy characters.
i miss the sex workers and kinksters and toy collectors and furry porn makers so much man
rocking back and forth on the front porch cradling a mug of tea on my lap blanket eyes misting fondly as i remember long posts talking about lube safety
From now on I’m calling these kinds of AIs “Spicy Autocomplete”.
artificial intelligence can’t be a pathological liar. it is a robot that puts words in a row without a brain. similar to a procedurally generated minecraft world, or a bad twitter ceo. there arent thoughts behind it no matter how convincing it seems.
[Image description: screenshot of mock newspaper opinion headline. The newspaper name at the top is ‘That Newspaper You Know’ and it’s in New York Times font style:
“Opinion Why aren’t people doing the things we’ve actively made it impossible to do? Here’s why we should blame young people and minorities.
By Some Asshole
Every day, the 2020s”
There is a photo in a circle of a balding white guy with five o'clock shadow next to the author line. /End ID]
okay so like, i mostly think this has a good message but i think it would be much more accurate and avoid perhaps subtle negative commentary on male-pattern-baldness if the icon showed a conventionally-attractive man with a confident facial expression instead of someone balding and looking tired and perhaps somewhat depressed
Pensions sound so fake as a zillennial. You work for one place for decades (already sounds fake) and then afterwards you leave and they just. keep paying you. the same amount of money. to do nothing. for the rest of your life. if i wasn’t already aware that this was something that readily and commonly existed during my grandparent’s days then it would sound like some kind of socialist pipe dream
401(k)s became available in 1978, and that signaled the death of pensions pretty much everywhere that they weren’t part of a union contract. Workers who still have pension plans today are almost universally unionized and that benefit has been a holdover from contracts of the past.
The thing about pensions is that they are deferred compensation. You take a slightly smaller salary than your role should have, and the difference is being invested and paid out to you in retirement. But when 401(k)s became a thing and companies dropped pension plans, compensation never rose enough to offset the difference, and employer contributions to 401(k) plans is lower than what they had to invest in pensions. They got to have their cake and eat it too, and workers got screwed.
And now we’re into a third generation of workers who don’t foresee actually having enough money to ever fully retire.
dude who even has 401(k)’s any more?
pretty much only people who have full-time jobs with the same employer for many years
i’m sitting here with a Roth IRA, which is a good method for retirement, but like…no employer is matching or anything.
My gender is a knife. Something sharp. Something that cuts. Something meant to be wielded. Something meant to thrust. Something that gets interpreted many ways by different people and cultures. Often seen as negative, as a symbol of violence, but in truth: merely a tool. Something that's told it belongs in the kitchen as much as it belongs on a battlefield. It is something that's kept in a soft sheath against its will. It is something that others have left to rust.
reminder to worldbuilders: don’t get caught up in things that aren’t important to the story you’re writing, like plot and characters! instead, try to focus on what readers actually care about: detailed plate tectonics
so i know this was probably intended as a joke but honestly i kinda love this
plate tectonics is super important, because it drives realistic mountain ranges. can’t stand when there is this elaborate geography and no plausible way that it actually formed. like i look at some maps and i’m like dude did you ever take a geology class? like either do plate tectonics right, or invent some arcane mythology with different gods that explains it in a completely different way
make it believable, even if it is super far-fetched!!!
super nerds like me will notice and will appreciate it
